“Find the courage to face your fears, so you can develop the confidence to move forward”
Join Kavita Ahuja as she discusses the importance of building confidence, especially in midlife. From her own experience, and interviewing countless women who have faced adversities and challenges in their lives, she has discovered that the one common ingredient to their success is: Confidence. They have managed to move past those challenges to become even greater versions of themselves.
Each of these women believed in themselves; believing that they were capable of doing whatever they set their minds to. It is a deep knowing; a quiet understanding that originates from within that fuels their being.
You have achieved so much in your life, and now it is time to celebrate yourself. Take some time to write down a list of things or accomplishments – however big or small – that you have achieved that you are proud of. Make a list of your successes and remember – YOU DID THIS! When you remember what you did to achieve these things, it will allow you to channel your self-confidence.
So WHY is it important to build your confidence? Without it, it is difficult to take the first step to realize your dreams, or the steps that follow.
You will find every excuse in the world to put it off – procrastinate, blame others or events or lack of time or money or any other reason for not starting. Consider this quote from a previous guest I had on this podcast, Dr. Caroline Brookfield:
“There is a comfort zone, a growth zone, and a panic zone. The trick is to find the edge of your comfort zone into your growth zone without going into a panic zone”.
When we develop confidence in ourselves, we shift our mindset from a limited mindset to a growth mindset. As Tony Robbins says, “the first step in building confidence is knowing why you want to achieve it. Once you know your purpose, learning how to build confidence becomes a matter of retraining your brain”. He goes on to say that “confidence is not something people are born with – it’s something you must create. Building confidence creates the feeling of certainty that you can accomplish what you set out to do”.
But What Holds Us Back?
In a word? FEAR. If you don’t have the courage to face your fears, you will not develop the confidence to move forward. It’s as simple as that. But of course, not simple at all.
To develop courage, we must act, despite our fears. Acknowledge the fear and recognize it is there but make a decision. Am I going to let this fear paralyze me, or am I going to use this fear to fuel me forward? Think of the analogy of sitting in your car. Fear can either be the brakes that stop the forward momentum of movement, or it can be the fuel which moves you forward. It’s your choice.
To receive practical tips on how to gain your confidence, download my free “28 days to building confidence tips” here and watch my daily videos which accompany the daily tips.
For more information on how to move from that little voice to a plan of action, Let’s chat.
As a certified core energy and life transition coach, I can help you develop the confidence to rediscover who you are, what you want, and how to get there, so you can be the most fulfilled you have ever been.