Who Is Your Greatest Mentor?

As we navigate midlife transitions—whether in careers, health, or relationships—we often encounter confusion, self-doubt, and imposter syndrome.

One effective way to overcome these blocks is by seeking guidance from mentors, coaches, or therapists.

The literal definition of a mentor is “an experienced and trusted advisor.” We typically view mentors as external figures who inspire, guide, and motivate us. In my own journey of rediscovery, I’ve learned from many great mentors, including Deepak Chopra, Eckhart Tolle, Oprah and other great visionaries and leaders. 

“They share a sense of authority, guiding us with their experience and knowledge.”

External mentors might include a senior manager at work, a respected elderly family member, or a celebrity whose teachings resonate with you. They share a sense of authority, guiding us with their experience and knowledge.

I’ve had many external mentors, such as past managers, coaches, and influential people like I mentioned. My most personal mentor, however, is my mom. With her quiet calm, she has been my guiding light in many trying situations.

External mentors provide valuable experience and wisdom. They guide, motivate, help shift our self-perception, and bring out the positive energy within us.

However, I’d like you to consider something you may have not considered before. That is this: the greatest mentor you have is you. That’s right – you.

This insight, introduced to me by Tara Mohr in her book Playing Big, highlights the concept of the inner mentor. The most authentic guidance comes from within. Learning to trust this inner voice is crucial for lasting balance. As Tara Mohr describes it:

“Inside, there is a voice that can remind us about our own right paths. Inside, there is a voice of wisdom, calm, love, and guidance. We can turn inside for answers, again and again.”

Tapping into your inner mentor provides the truest and most trusted advice. You can use this inner guidance every day, in every moment. This idea aligns with Abraham Hicks’ concept of the Inner Being. When we tune into our inner self, or inner mentor, we find the right path.

“Many call this intuition.”

For example, you may have recently been laid off, and are feeling unmoored or unsure of what to do next and not confident in your next steps. By tapping into your inner mentor through meditation and being still, for example, can reveal your next steps. These insights often come as subtle clues or coincidences that guide you in the right direction.

Many call this intuition. Recognizing the difference between your outer self and your inner self, which guides you like an external mentor, builds confidence. This happens to me often. I ask my inner self, “What should I do now?” The answer comes as a feeling. If I feel happiness or excitement about a choice, I know it’s right. If I feel dread or uncertainty, I choose a different path.

Consider this, my friend: the greatest mentor is not external, but within you. While external guidance is valuable, your inner mentor is the fastest and most reliable guide for daily challenges and decisions.

I have a powerful Inner Mentor visualization meditation which I have created and led many people through which helps you to visualize your inner mentor — You, 5, 10, 15, or 20 years from now in great and vivid detail. It is a powerful exercise I used years ago to clarify my true vision of myself. You can email me If you’re interested in this visualization exercise, email me at kavita@itsmytimenowcoaching.com with the words “inner mentor,” and I will send it to you.

So, I leave you with this question: Who is your greatest mentor?

Who do you seek externally for guidance and support? Can you begin to tap into the greatest source of mentorship—your inner guide—now?

About the Author:

Kavita Ahuja is a Certified Life Transitions & Core Energy Coach, dedicated to advancing the personal growth and inner power of women in midlife. She is an Entrepreneur and Founder of Power Purpose Play, a Global Platform that brings women together for learning & community. She is the Host and Visionary behind the successful Podcast, “The Midlife Reinvention”, a course creator and facilitator, an accomplished writer, and an expert on how to navigate midlife transitions.

At the age of 52, Kavita, who also holds a major in Biology and an MBA, left an extremely successful corporate pharmaceutical career of 25 years, took control of her health, her spirituality, her personal relationships, and found her next true calling.